Saturday, October 13, 2007

Do the Words Mommy and Appreciate Go Together?

I've heard many moms say that one reason motherhood is hard is because the feeling of being appreciated, or maybe even "loved" by their children is well, rather sparse. Kids are basically on a "needs" based plan--I need it, you get it. I need a drink, I need my diaper changed, I need a new backpack for school, I need you to make cookies for my class, I need.... Sure, it may be followed by a "thank you" once done, but we don't count on it and often times, it may only come with prompting.
I have to admit, that does happen in my home. Maybe more than I realize. But to be completely honest, my kids are really good at helping me feel appreciated. My kids are in the "I'll stick with you club." Granted their benefits are great (they get fed, a bed, and an occasional treasure from Walmart). But, their loyalty it unfailing. When I'm tired, they still try to make me laugh. When I'm sad, they offer me hugs and kisses. When I'm frustrated, they still love me when it subsides. Whether it's Cayden's unsolicited hug and kiss, Kyra's kind words and pictures, or Keagan's "look" of love with a sweet smile, I have to say that I often feel those moments of appreciation.
Granted, I know that my children will continue to grow. And someday, this all will change. They won't "need" me anymore, and therefore, they will invest in different loves and relationships. The way I may or may not feel appreciated, will too, change.
But, I'm choosing to look at my now. I'm choosing to cling to what gift God has given me in this time. Tomorrow, as He says, will worry about itself. And it's when I consider these things that I remember how far a feeling of being appreciated can take you.

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